As I mentioned in my last posts, I'm currently casually seeing someone, whatever that means. The only words I usually hear people use to describe such a relationship are "nothing too serious". But what are the boundaries? Where does "casual" end and "serious" start?
We're all familiar with the term "honeymoon phase" when we talk about a new couple that just can't get enough of each other but can you have such a thing when you're in something casual? I don't think so. To my understanding, something that isn't very serious (especially something where you aren't exclusive with each other) implies that you don't foresee a future together and you really couldn't care less when your next date is going to take place. Sure, you may see yourself seeing this person at least one more time in the near future, but what about in a few months' time? Can you really plan that far ahead with your not-so-significant other? One thing's for sure, you guys definitely aren't talking about "staying together forever and ever and ever".
Being emotionally demanding, I require constant care. Okay, maybe not constant care, but it'd be nice to be able to talk to that special someone at least once a day, even if it's just to wish each other a friendly "Good morning!" But then again, isn't that a little too...couple-y? Where do we draw the line? How clingy can I get without making myself look so love-crazed that I'll scare someone off? Does telling someone I miss them make me sound like some sort of Overly Attached Girlfriend?
I'll admit, I don't really have much of a life. My days consist of lying around on my bed and chatting with my friends on Facebook. I occasionally watch TV shows and sometimes, if I'm in a really good zone, I whip out my sketchbook and doodle something that'll hopefully turn out half-decent. I could use a good distraction like, oh, say, a chatty guy. Good conversation is so hard to come by in terms of dating, I've found. I keep finding guys who "are not one to start conversations" or who "don't like to text". Goddammit people, TALK TO ME.
Having someone look at your texts/snaps/facebook messages and not acknowledging them makes you feel so inadequate or worthless. I would understand if I said something like "lol" and you didn't say anything back, I mean, what are you even supposed to send back? Sure, you can send me back a smiley face, but you can also just ignore that "lol". That is totally fine with me. But if I ask you something or I tell you something super sweet, I'd at least like an answer or an "Awww thank you" back! I put a lot of thought into that message, you stupid butt.
Keep me stimulated, keep my mind running, and you'll keep me. If all I'm getting from you is silence, you can expect silence back. Okay maybe not much silence. I'll probably try and prod you for some conversation but I promise you, my friends are not going to be happy with all the backstage whining. (I'm sorry, I love you guys)
I feel like casual dating is just basically a term used for a dating arrangement that says "I would like to have fun with you but I don't want to have any responsibilities or commitments"...which sucks! I would love to be taken care of or told that someone only has eyes for me. I totally want someone who'll cheer me up when I'm feeling sad or when I've had a nightmare and I can't seem to make sense of reality.
I want someone to start a conversation with me because they miss my voice...because I definitely miss theirs.
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