Kiss me passionately, kiss me slowly

Kissing is so interesting to think about.  One moment, you could be passionately, aggressively going at each other's lips and the next moment, the rhythm has drastically changed and you're both melting into each other's presence.

I had a discussion about the topic with a friend of mine and I asked her which she preferred: Making out or soft, little kisses.  Her answer?  The latter.  Intriguingly enough, another friend of mine agreed with the choice.

I remember sharing my first drawn-out kiss with someone and thinking Wow...that was amazing and so magical.  Why have we not done this sooner?  There's just something about them that makes them feel so special and intimate.  With the right person at just the right moment, sometimes it can feel like one of those romantic scenes in a movie where the two people FINALLY get to kiss each other and the camera pans around to give you a 360 view of their smooch.  The best part of it all is the sweet nose nuzzling that happens at the end.  Aahh those little nose caresses really send my heart soaring and set the butterflies in my stomach aflutter.

On the other hand, experiencing intense kisses that leave you panting for more is definitely something else.  The pin-you-up-against-the-wall-as-my-hands-snake-around-your-body kiss is drop-dead amazing and it doesn't necessarily have to be up against a surface...or done vertically.  Chests heaving, both parties are able to enjoy something fiery and wild that will surely send both your heads spinning by the end of it.  You know that scene in We Are The Millers where they're trying to teach the guy how to kiss and Jennifer Aniston has a little trick up her sleeve?  Oh yeah, I've had that eye-widening Mm! moment.

Comparing these two enjoyable styles, I really can't decide which one I'd prefer.  I think timing is definitely key in all of this and if you can, I'd totally recommend orchestrating a blend of both!  Doing something hot and heavy and then transitioning that into something fluid with a lower tempo can really be beautiful.

For a first kiss, I've read numerous articles that say not to automatically plunge your tongue into someone else's mouth and that's just to be respectful.  I think starting out with soft pecks and then working your way to gentle licking is quite enjoyable.

Slow kisses can also do a quick 180 and turn into something rough in the blink of an eye by simply pressing in a little more, breathing in deeply, and gradually moving your lips a little faster.

Isn't it just fascinating how we can change a mood or the atmosphere by merely controlling our breathing?

There are also little things/gestures people do that can make a kiss so much more special.  For example, someone could guide your chin to their mouth with their index finger or they could gently hold your face with both of their hands while you two lock lips.  The former makes my heart beat that much faster and the latter chokes me up because it makes me feel so loved. 

You could also change things up and move your hands elsewhere.  Positioning them on different areas of someone's body can make them feel a plethora of different emotions that can include explosions and fireworks.  Each touch can evoke an old, pleasant memory and each caress can encourage a new one to form.  Tender strokes and fingers tracing the outline of your body can send chills up and down your spine like never before.

I hadn't thought of kissing as a full-body experience before jumping into the dating scene but after giving it a lot of thought, I can't see how anyone could say it isn't!